Our Adoptive Waiting Families
Anna & Margaret
Our names are Anna & Margaret but really there is so much more to us then our names and we like to share a little bit about us in this short profile. We hope you enjoy reading it. We would love to get to know you better as well and we already think you are pretty brave and with the world on your shoulders, we would like to offer you, hopefully some comfort.
We met in 1994 in New York City; we reconnected years later after seeing each other on dating site. On November 8, 2003 we both knew from that moment, this was it. We wasted no time and within 8 months bought our first townhouse together in New Jersey. We both adore each other’s company and our relationship just flows together really well. On September 20, 2015 we were finally able to marry each other and we had a pretty awesome wedding with family and close friends at a fancy Italian wedding Venue in New Jersey, “That we both picked”. We are both Italian so the food was pretty important to us and it had to be great.
Family Life & Careers:
We are, two women with a lot of love to give and a true desire to grow our family. We love to garden and landscape. We are both very handy and enjoy taking on any project, we designed and built walk-in closets in our last home. Anna is a licensed cosmetologist for 30 years and is currently with Weichert Real Estate attending a course; Anna prefers to be a stay at home mom and also work from home as a real estate agent. She’s an excellent cook and thrives on just about everything she makes and loves to come up with new recipes. She makes many dishes and her meatballs are so yummy. That’s from her mom’s secret recipe. Anna is also super creative and can make and design just about anything. Margaret occasionally works from home as well and has been with the NYC Housing Authority for the last 27 years as an Administrative Housing Development Specialist within NYC project based management unit. She is excellent with mathematics and numbers. Margaret loves to make amazing breakfast as well her veggie omelets are to die for. In our free time we have these 2 cute dogs- Grace at 5 pounds and the other is Dakota at 15 pounds, they are both very sweet/friendly and they love to give kisses, we enjoy our time with them. We take them for short/long walks around the neighborhood and Parks. On weekends we venture out with trips to NYC, beaches, trying new restaurants, nothing is better than finding our favorite food. Going to local farmers markets,” we just can’t live without fresh veggies”. But we also LOVE spending time at home as well. We enjoy sports and we both like the New York Giants/Yankees. We LOVE holidays and are very big on traditions we enjoy spending time with family we both come from Italian backgrounds and have large families. We have celebrated every holiday and will never forget all the blessings we have. We hope to share that with a child someday, which we will cherish. How can I better explain our life? Life is just fun and easy we have so many fond memories we made and with a little girl or boy we believe they would be secure in all that we have to offer. They would be loved and appreciated we would give them the attention they need and the security of a loving family.
Home and Community:
We own a new 4 bedroom home with a loft kid’s play area. We are in the process of designing the bedroom and the play area. There is plenty of room to share it with a little one. Our home sits on a corner lot and the yard has plenty of room to play we moved in August of 2018 and we really LOVE it here. We live in a suburb of Ocean County New Jersey and we are10 minutes from one the best beaches in New Jersey. The neighborhood is safe and has a lot of diversity. There are a lot of community events and festivals in the area and large parks with swing sets. The surrounding areas have many amusement parks with rides. Our area has large department stores to shop and plenty of great food. The school is nearby and the school system is rated very well.
Family & Friends:
Anna’s dad lives five minutes away from our new home and her three sisters, niece and nephew all live within a half hour from us. Margaret has two cousins that are like her sisters and we attend many holidays at their home. Anna was born In Central New Jersey and has a lot of friends in the area and Margaret was born in Brooklyn, New York. One of her childhood friends just moved two blocks away.
We are dedicated, honest, lovable, and loyal to each other. We respect each other’s opinions and will sacrifice to make sure we both have each other’s best interest at hand. We would instill the same values in your child. We believe that with true patience and lots of hugs and kisses your child will be raised in a well-rounded home. We would love her or him to the moon and back. We strongly believe in the importance of education and teaching children to work hard and be successful. We will encourage them to be active, and to explore and discover their passions, whether their interests are sports, music, art, dance, whatever their heart desires. We will be right there beside them every step of the way supporting. Message from Anna about Margaret: Margaret would make an amazing mother, her patience and loyalty is like no other I have ever known. Her desire and drive are something I always admired. She is very easy to love and I really love her with all my heart. Everyone that’s knows her thinks the world of her and so do I. She’s a kind soul. Message from Margaret about Anna: Anna is very warm, nurturing, loving and genuine; I feel she would make a great mom. She loves to pamper. She’s a great communicator and what I admire about her most is her honestly. She’s very affectionate and treats me very well. I can’t say enough about her, she’s one of a kind and down to earth. Birth Mother: We know this is a hard choice to make and we truly believe it takes one day at a time and life will only get better. We would be honored to get to know you. Thank you for taking the time to read about us, we wish you nothing but the best. Just know if you need us, we are here.
With Warmest Wishes,
Anna & Margaret
Hans & Justin
The Perfect Nursery
“Well, this looks like it would make a wonderful nursery,” said our friend Janeece with a wink as she scanned the small, third bedroom of our new house. The two of us nervously smiled and agreed with her that it would. We had just moved to a small town in North Jersey after living in the city for over a decade and we were giving her a tour. Janeece is Hans’ childhood friend from Michigan. Ever since we met in the fall of 2006, she started asking us when we were going to move to New Jersey and raise a child.
We had talked about having children. It came up fairly early in our relationship and the subject lingered, almost silently between us, like a book on the shelf you’ve been meaning to read for years. When we went looking for houses, we never outright said “we’re going to find the place where we can raise a family,” yet it was clearly on both our minds as one of our goals. We’ve been together 14 years. In that time we’ve shared our space together with our dog, got married surrounded by family and bought a house. But we know something is missing. We’ve been in our house for two years now, and we decided that it was time to immerse ourselves in a new part of our story… the chapter in which you appear.
On Music and Us
A young music teacher in New York City with no Friday night plans, has a colleague who says, “Hey, I have an extra ticket to this concert tonight. Do you want to come?”
That was how we met on October 13th, 2006. There was a concert at the Bowery Ballroom and by pure chance we both happened to be there. We left that concert together (the first of many!) and have been inseparable since. We share a passion for music. Justin is an avid Indie music fan with an ever-expanding vinyl record collection. Hans studied classical music (vocal performance), plays guitar, composes and sings in the church choir. While we have our own unique tastes, there is enough overlap between us to keep it interesting. Music is a huge part, if not the most fundamental aspect of our connection. And, as the first thing that connected us, it will be something we pass on to the children we raise.
On Food, Friends, & Family
Justin has many talents. He is a good cook… no, a great cook! with an ability to whip things together on a dime or create a gourmet dinner in a heartbeat. He does the majority of the cooking. Hans cooks too, but not with his efficiency. We have dinner together every night. Any child that is in our home–our own, a cousin, niece, nephew, friend– can expect a full belly of delicious food. We also have a backyard garden, so each spring there is a surplus of Justin’s canned preserves: various berry jams, pickled onions & cucumbers, salsa and pasta sauce from our endless supply of tomatoes. We even grew pumpkins this year! In addition to eating them ourselves, these little jars of love are gifted to neighbors and friends. They are shipped to Virginia, where Justin’s Mom and grandparents live, and to Hans’ parents in Alabama.
Our family ties are just as important to us to preserve. We both grew up in homes with strong identities. Justin has a strong bond with his sister, Allison, who lives with her partner and four children just over an hour away in Bethlehem, PA. We visit with them often and we have been an integral part of our nephews and nieces’ lives. Hans has two older brothers who live a bit farther afield in Michigan. Nevertheless, their kids are equally important to us. Since they are all teenagers now, I think they are extra-excited at the idea of having a baby cousin.
Our House In the Middle of a Street
Two years ago, we bought a modest Dutch Colonial in a charming small town in Essex County, New Jersey. Our neighborhood is a diverse, tight-knit community, both physically (we have a shared driveway with our neighbor) and socially. We are especially very close with our next door neighbors. They moved in just two weeks after us and have a 3 year old daughter, with a son on the way. We and they both have friends with kids in the area, but we are all very excited at the prospect of our kids literally growing up together: playing in our yards together, walking to the Elementary school down the street together, Halloweens, birthdays, the whole shebang.
We chose this area specifically for its diversity, proximity to close friends, many of whom work in the performing arts. We also know young people that have grown or are growing up here. We see that a kid that grows up here has access to a good education and system of support in which, no matter their background, they can see positive reflections of themselves.
What Hans Does
Hans recently started a new job working with Kindergartners at an incredible school about 8 miles from our house. He is also an experienced music teacher with a Master’s degree in Voice. When he is not doing that you can find him engaged in any number of the following activities: reading a book, watching TV, singing with his church choir, singing anywhere, composing music, painting a room, refinishing a piece of furniture, playing with our dog, Neko, doing lawn work, or interrupting Justin at his work.
What Justin Does
Justin is the Director of Media Planning for an advertising agency in New York, (though he is currently–and for the foreseeable future–working from home, and thankful for it.) When he is not doing that you can find him in one of the following scenarios: in the garden, in the garage prepping to garden, in the basement growing seedlings to plant in the garden next season, in the kitchen processing food from the garden, cooking dinner, or experimenting with pie crust, avoiding interruptions from Hans and/or Neko.
Together, Justin and Hans (and sometimes Neko):
- Like to travel and take road trips to interesting places, both alone together and with family and/or friends
- Enjoy Holiday traditions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, especially with family, and escaping for 3 day weekends to camp, hike, or sit by the pool at Allison’s house.
- Love planning special times with our nieces & nephews. We try to make time for each one.
- Do not miss living in a 5th floor walk-up in NYC, especially Neko who is 13.
- Incidentally, Neko likes:
- Hoarding and playing with her tennis balls (she currently has five)
- Going for walks, running, and hiking when her legs aren’t tired
- Licking up food messes
- Giving kisses (we’ve recently discovered she likes to kiss baby feet and hands)
- Love to relax by the fire on cold nights
What This All Amounts to
Despite our best efforts, it’s impossible to give you a full picture of what kind of people we are, what kind of family we have and, most importantly, what kind of life your child will have in our care. All we can say is that we are two of the most responsible, capable, and loving people you will meet. We have been preparing for this journey for ages and we want to share that journey with you, as much as you are able. We have no idea what has brought you here or where you are going from here. Nor can we fathom how this decision must feel for you. We can only tell you that your gift to the world will be our treasure to share. And in our care, they will grow in a home filled with stories told in the firelight’s warm glow, laughter around a crowded dining table, songs sung at the tops of our voices, and love, and love, and then more love.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. We are so grateful to start this new chapter of our life with you.
–Hans & Justin
Louis and Nicholas
Eight years ago when we started our lives together, we spoke casually of what this moment would look like and how we would become dads… The crazy part writing this now is that it’s one step closer to making it a reality. We knew that our top choice was always going to be adoption.
We have to say, writing this is interesting, and we can’t imagine how reading it will feel. Clearly, the connection between you and us is so much more important than a quick profile. We cannot begin to understand the emotions that go into such an important decision. What we do know is, is that this is a gift to us and our family that means more than words and photographs. So thank you for making it this far and taking the time to consider us.
Speaking of 8 years ago… it’s crazy to even write because time has flown by…
We started off very typical for two gay men dating in the NYC/NJ area. Having some appetizers and conversation and next thing we knew we couldn’t get rid of each other! In our defense, we had a great connection. We laughed for hours. And, if we remember correctly, way before our first date was over, Nick already had asked for a second date.
It was the beginning of spring, we both worked in Manhattan and lived in NJ, so we took advantage of the weather and shared the enjoyment of just being in the city. The more we did together the more we connected. Laughter is at the core of our connection. Our sense of humor, our understanding of sarcasm and the ability to find humor/joy in situations was something we both knew was rare to find in someone else. Around the jokes, we both started to learn more and more about the man we would one day call husband. Of course, there were all the basic facts that come along with getting to know someone, like Nick being a lawyer who really wanted to be a photographer and being an animal lover . And of course his love of scary movies (good or bad).
As we grew closer, Lou got to witness Nick’s relationship with his, at the time, 8 year old nephew when we visited Nick’s family in Pennsylvania. Nick lit up in a completely different way for his nephew. Nick’s nephew was and still is just as excited to see his uncle. From that moment on, Lou saw Nick as the dad he would one day get to be and that actually cemented a lot for their relationship. Lou knew that this was someone I could laugh, love and raise children with until we were both old and annoying.
For Nick, Lou had the benefit of being from NJ and living a lot closer to his immediate family. So Nick got see his retail buyer boyfriend interact with them more frequently. Nick quickly realized that humor and sarcasm was pretty much how he communicated with his family. Nick also got to see firsthand how the expression “family first” was not only something that was said but was also shown in their interactions.
Lou’s relationship with his niece was not exactly the same as Nick and his nephew, because his niece was already 19 when Nick first met her. The little girl that used to instantly fall asleep on him was working at the mall, going to school and “too cool” for her uncle. Nick did get to see Lou more with his close friends and their kids as it seemed to be someone was having a baby every year.
Nick will tell you he knew he always wanted kids. Lou on the other hand, was hesitant when he was younger because he didn’t want to get his hopes up knowing that he was gay and that he may not get the chance. One day that changed when he was home on a weekend downloading music. He was searching and playing all kinds of music that he grew up with and was passed down from his parents and extended family. At that moment, it hit him… he wanted to be a dad! The things that have been passed down to him were the greatest gifts he had ever received – his huge love of music, his creativity, memories, experiences and laughter. He realized becoming a dad is a gift and an honor and a chance to do what was done for him and pass all this on to a child.
One thing Lou can’t pass on, is cooking. Don’t get us wrong, he has tried it and he can make some dishes (mostly soups), but he just doesn’t see how people love it. In fact, some may even say he keeps sweaters in the oven for extra storage. Luckily, It’s just another thing he benefitted from when falling for Nick – Nick loves to cook. However, Lou does bring cleaning to the table and the next level. He can clean and rearrange/redecorate a room for hours and he finds it all to be relaxing. So we balance each other out that way.
More about our family as it is today. We have two rescue dogs that are the most lovable and adorable you can find (we are bias). Reece, who just turned 11 years old, has energy just like he did when he was 5 months old and his brother Pope, who just turned 9, wants nothing more than to be next to people and see what going on. They have been spoiled rotten even more so this past year with the pandemic because they have both dads working from home. Both are great around babies and children.
Speaking of work, so like we mentioned, Nick is an attorney who has specialized in medical malpractice. For the last few years, he has been working on the insurance side of things. He works from home 5 days a week now and for the foreseeable future. While Lou works as a category director for consumer products. Lou get to be creative in both fun products and running a business. Lou currently works from home, and will be eventually returning to the office 3 days a week. We see the silver lining this year because we will get to spend even more time with the baby than we would have given the huge change in the world. We are so grateful as well, because we live extremely close to Lou’s parents, who have both retired in recent years and are so excited for a new grand baby. Lou’s parents have been married 50+ years and set the bar high for loving couples and defining family. Nick’s mom is a retired ER nurse who will be visiting from Pennsylvania more and more when they baby comes.
So when the world isn’t shut down what do we like to do? So one thing that is important to both of us is being active and working out. We both try to get physical activity in everyday for at least 30 minutes. That could be as simple as walking the dogs or as much as the at home gym Nick has now built since the gyms shut down. When we aren’t doing any of the above, we love traveling and vacationing, that’s everything from a ski weekend, to day trip, to getting on a plane and going to experience a new country. In the summer months, we try and spend one day a weekend (at least) down at the Jersey shore and we can be happy window shopping at a mall in the winter or keeping the couch cozy with the dogs.
Friendships are also a big part of who we are as a couple and individuals, even though over the years our circle isn’t as big as it once was, the love, memories and support are things we truly appreciate and cherish. We plan on leveraging our friends for so many things like parenting advice, different perspective and just connections from family to family.
While we have all these great thing going for us, there is one thing missing – a child.
From first conversations about children, we both immediately said “Well two dads can’t make a baby, so how are we going to do it?” We are two men, so conceiving isn’t an option (obviously, haha). We decided on adoption because we understand that there are mothers looking for good homes for their child and we have a home full of love, laughter, traditions and experiences. Just from that, it is the only choice we could make. We know we will love the child with everything we are and everything we have. In a way, we are lucky because we don’t have the pressure to the “when do we tell the child about their adoption?” The child will eventually start to question why they have two dads and we will have to begin to educate them about how they came to us. There will be so many questions throughout their life and we will take each one on with honesty and take pride in educating ourselves together for any of the questions that we do not know the answer.
Again, while we cannot imagine what the other side of this profile is thinking or feeling, we want to thank you for making this step to consider us. We are honored to be considered for this next step of our lives and building our family.
Jenna & Emmie
Hi! I’m Jenna and I have a baby girl named Emmie. Thank you for taking the time to learn a little about our family. Ever since I’ve thought about being a mom, I’ve felt that adoption would be part of my journey to build a family. I had the privilege of serving as a foster mom for an amazing little girl, A., for 16 months. Although she returned home, she continues to be an important part of my life.
In June of 2018, I was given the gift of becoming Emmie’s mom through adoption. My experiences caring for A. and for Emmie have taught me so many things about motherhood. Most importantly, I’ve learned to be fully present and enjoy every moment. This is something that I will strive to do every day as I care for your child. When your child is building a block tower, climbing the playground equipment, or jumping in puddles (with rain boots on of course J), Emmie and I will be playing right alongside her or him. We will have family dinners and at bedtime there will always be stories, talk of what we did that day, and lots of hugs and kisses. Your child will be listened to intently and loved beyond measure.
I am a preschool special education teacher, but I took this school year off so that I can enjoy being a full time mommy. I am loving every minute of it! I love spending time with my sweet little Emmie, the rest of our family, and our friends. Emmie and I take part in lots of fun community activities during the week including swimming classes, baby gym classes, and story time and playgroup at the local libraries. We also love spending time at the playground and taking day trips to nearby farms, zoos, and children’s museums. It would be wonderful for Emmie to be able to share these experiences with a sister or brother.
I have a wonderful support system. My mom lives right around the corner from me. She is a retired special education teacher and she will help with child care when I return to work. My maternal grandmother also lives a short distance from me and she visits several times during the week. My brother and his girlfriend live nearby, as well. My family and friends are very supportive of my decision to adopt again and can’t wait to meet the newest family member!
I will always honor and respect your relationship with your child. I will teach your child to be kind, compassionate, and independent. I will always do everything in my power to make sure he or she is happy, healthy, and safe. Above all, I promise that your child will always be loved and nurtured.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know a little bit about us. If you have any questions, I would be happy to share more.
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